Wow, thank you for writing this. I’m in a similar position, but on the other side. You helped me make sense of my feelings towards a friend that, I will say, I’m also in love with. At the same time, if we were single, I don’t think I’d want to date. I feel it would ruin what we have.

I also love my wife very much and she means a lot to me. It’s like we have people in our lives that fulfill certain needs. We shouldn’t expect our partners to be these super heros that can fulfill all of them, right? I mean, that can be too much strain on them.